“White People: I Want You To Understand Yourselves Better” @IjeomaOluo https://theestablishment.co/white-people-i-dont-want-you-to-understand-me-better-i-want-you-to-understand-yourselves-a6fbedd42ddf
As my Dad taught me, Don’t Mistake Kindness for weakness.
When I was younger my hair was Lush, Full, Thick and so Dense that if my Mom used a regular comb the teeth in the comb would break. In the 1970s my hair was proudly Afrocentric. Watu Wasuri Use Afro Sheen. Some of you may remember that commercial. Of course like most Black Women I’ve worn my hair in many other styles including straightened using both the straightening comb and chemical process, the 1980s Jheri Curl, Locs, box braids, cornrows, Bantu knots, etc… When I had my Locs they reached all the way down my back to my butt. Loved it but after a while this hairstyle proved to be high maintenance so back I went to the Afro.
However since Menopause I’ve experienced certain unwanted changes in my hair. It is still fairly thick but not as dense and the texture has become more wiry with a change in the curl pattern. It is also more wild than when I was younger as though the hair had a life of it’s own. Well maybe it does.
The worst hair change was having my hair literary go gray overnight when I was 52. I Don’t Like Gray Hair and I Do NOT want to own it like some white lady visitor to the museum told me I needed to do. I enjoy coloring my hair Vampire Red and I know and believe I look Great with Red Hair. I get lots of compliments on my hair. This brings me to the below video and yes I’ve had white people both male and female say these things to me at work and attempt to touch my hair.
Let’s get this straight. Never. Ever. Upon the possibility of getting slapped or punched in the face should you touch or attempt to touch a Black person’s Hair. Touching hair is intimate contact which most Black people myself include Do Not Appreciate. STOP!! No Touching! Black People are not petting zoos and I for one HATE to be Touched. If I don’t know you and you don’t know me KEEP Your Distance!! Exclusions are small children, developmentally disabled kids who have come up to me and hugged me. the very elderly and disabled people who need assistance. These groups are okay. As for the rest of you well I can only conclude that you must but some type of pervert or sex predator.
Again: DON’T TOUCH MY HAIR OR ANY PART OF MY PERSON!!
After you watch the videos I’ve included a Slide Show of my hair over the years.
Things Not To Say To Someone With Afro Hair
13 Crazy Things White People Think About Black Hair
Happy 87th Birthday in Heaven Daddy!!
Feb. 11, 1930 to May 13, 1995
A Husband, Father, Korean War Air-force Veteran, Protector and Provider.
Stephen and I are who we are because of you!! Miss you and Love you!!
Love, DeBorah and Stephen
Mom & Dad
My Dad Edward G. Palmer
My Dad Edward G. Palmer
Me and Dad
Our Florida vacation around 1986
Stephen, Me & Daddy 1977
The King had found his Queen and for 40 years they reigned together.
Dad’s 1st car early 1950s. DeBorah Ann Palmer