The Daily Post
Apr 8, 2017
Your body can heal from bruises, bumps, cuts and breaks but your mind can never heal from emotional, physical or psychological abuse.
I am a rape survivor. I was raped when I was 19 but the abuse did not stop there. Throughout most of my adult life I have been the object of sexual harassment, domestic violence, bullying, workplace violence etc… For a long time I tried to cover up my wounds by going to church, reading my Bible, prayer, exercise, having productive hobbies such as photography, practicing Buddhist meditation, getting out into Nature, affirmations, playing Gospel, Inspirational and uplifting music, read books that are supposed to show you how you can get deliver from your thoughts, listening to progressive positive videos and podcasts, and so on. You name it I’ve tried it or am still using these strategies.
During the last 40 odd years I’ve been hospitalized repeatedly for Depression. I’ve been on all types of anti-depressants and psychosis drugs/pills to no avail. I spent two weeks on the psych ward as a prisoner at Kings County Hospital in Brooklyn, NY. One of the worst hospitals in New York. I was forced to take medication that caused panic attacks, breaks with reality, hallucinations and everything else these drugs are supposed to fix. I saw things there that scared the hell out of me and frightened me so badly that I promised myself I would never return to the hell hole again. Just thinking about that place causes nightmares.
Believe me when I say that the cure is worse than the disease.
After being released from Dante’s Inferno I began to realize that I will never escape the effects of the trauma. I will always have flashbacks, nightmares, triggers, night terrors and fears that nobody except those who’ve gone through my experience can understand. I know I will never have a loving, caring relationship with a man because too much water has passed under the bridge and I rarely trust men. My history and my experiences are my reality no matter how many times I read or watch that book/movie called The Secret.
I still do all the things I stated in the early paragraph but now as I approach my sixth decade on this earth I realize that I cannot run away from me. I was looking for a fix or a cure that does not exist. I must accept my failures, flaws, and shortcomings because no matter what I do inside my mind I will remain the same.
However all is not lost as I know when I pass from Labor to Reward I will receive my healing in Heaven and my suffering will come to an end. Finally I will find peace.
One thing that I will do when I see Jesus is ask him why I had to go through all this pain and what I did to cause it. Was there something wrong with me. That is something for which I really want an answer.
So that is my response to today’s word prompt despite the fact that I know folks won’t like my words and will say that my feelings and emotions are not true or valid but deep inside I know that my truth is my reality no matter how much I try to change it. You can’t run from yourself.
13 thoughts on “Emotional Healing ~~ Only a PipeDream”
Very touching.. You are a brave lady.. But you have to move on from the memories..
You got to live, for you and for others. Don’t let the monsters “depression” and “memories” take over your soul 🙂
You can try to let go of the past but the Past refuses and will never let of you. Believe me when I say that I’ve tried. Depression and memories will be with me forever. I cannot shake it loose no matter what I do. At this point it is too late.
I can understand. Or maybe can’t. But what I feel, it’s never too late. I am a realist. So I believe I have to move on in every situation, no matter what. Clinging back to horrific memories will bring back pain. It will make things worse. So there is no other alternative
No you cannot understand. As I said before I am not clinging to the past or memories they cling to me. I cannot escape the past. There is no hiding place. No matter how much I try to move on my past is always there to haunt me. If you read what I wrote I listed everything that I’ve tried to fix myself. I’ve been looking for a cure for years. Finally I realized that there is no cure. Memories are locked up inside you. They are part of your makeup. They are embedded in your being. It would be like trying to unweave a tapestry. Impossible. What you say sounds good on the surface but not everyone is able to do this. Unless I have a lobotomy I will relive the abusive memories forever. This is my reality. And it is too late for me to change.
Yeah.. Maybe, I don’t understand. I know it’s easy to give advice, but theory is not practical. True
Advice is akin to telling somebody who has lost their arms or legs through accident and/or amputation to just go ahead and grow some new limbs.
Your feelings are always valid. The past has a sneaky way of making sure you don’t forget the trauma. ❤️
Thank you. I knew that you of all people would understand. Your blog posts speak to me in so many ways. At least I know I’m not alone in my struggles. I really appreciate you!! God Bless! ❤
The feeling is totally mutual! ❤
Amen and Hallelujah My Sister!! ❤
Your feelings are very much your own and valid. I’m so sorry you hurt so much. I know we have not walked the same streets, but in some ways I do know some of your nightmares. The Secret is good, but it doesn’t take you far enough to actually feel the trauma and get some separation from it. I bless you and feel for you my friend.
Thanks for understanding. I believe I will receive my healing and deliverance in Paradise. So I hang onto that hope.
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