Stay in your Lane

Recently I saw this Meme on Instagram.

A Private Life is a Happy Life

Usually I disregard most Memes as they are ridiculous, stupid and ignorant but this one resonated with me.

Over time I’ve been blogging less and less. Sharing less and less despite the cries of people who say my story matters.

In fact I deleted one of my blogs and have begun to delete many of my older posts. Contemplated deleting this blog also but it’s attached to my photography blog Roaming Urban Gypsy so it stays.

There are certain specific issues that I do discuss such as Austim in the hopes that my activism and advocacy will help other families who have developmentally disabled family members.

Of course Veterans since I am one and the ever present racism, bigotry and discrimination because well as a Black Woman in America that’s an every day experience.

However as far as my personal affairs especially concerning relationships, health, medical issues I’ve learned over time my parents expression, Don’t put your business in the street.

When you discuss your personal experiences online you open yourself up to ridicule, scorn and unwanted pity. People are not really empathetic and get off on reading about other people’s troubles so they can I’m better than so and so.

Of course everyone is different. Some people feel that being an open book is cathartic. For me sharing often makes me feel worse not better.

After a falling out with a friend I’ve known for over 35 years I realized that by telling someone I thought I knew, I only set myself up for judgment. As a result I play Public Face/Private Face. Much of the time I say what certain people want or expect to hear because they can’t handle truth. They live in a Disneyfied Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm world and reject any voice that doesn’t correspond to their expectations. Sometimes I will say stuff just to get people out of my face.

I maintain my Silence. For in the past I’ve had many regrets.

Now save for my creative endeavors the best parts of my life are not on social media. In fact I periodically disconnect from social Media. Once I retired last month August I vowed to live in the moment as much as possible. When certain specific folks that I highly respect asked me to share some of my poetic thoughts, photographs and creative moments I was happy to comply.

I still participate in many photography challenges because I enjoy them and I Love sharing, highlighting and showcasing New York city, my hometown.

Be Invisible.

Maintain your Mystery.


Share Your World – April 23, 2018



Share Your World – April 23, 2018

Share Your World – April 23, 2018




If you could have an endless supply of any food, what would you get?

Now that’s a difficult question!  Chicken, pizza, chocolate, empanadas, Oxtails, mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes,   I could go on for days!!

List at least five movies or books that cheer you up.

The Bible

Any book or novel by Zora Neale Hurston, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Chinua Achebe, James Baldwin, Langston Hughes, W.E.B. Du Bois, Nikki Giovanni

The Autobiography of a Yogi  Paramhansa Yogananda

Comedies like Madea or Mel Brooks movies

The Matrix

Daughters of the Dust a movie directed by Julie Dash


If you were a mouse in your house in the evening, what would you see your family doing? 


The Mouse would see my cat Sylvester coming towards him. His tiny rodent life would flash before his eyes right before Sylvester breaks his neck!


List things or events that changed your life?

Giving my life to Jesus Christ then Rededicating my Life to Christ as an adult.  My relationship with God began to mean more and take on new significance especially as age and disabilities set in.  My faith has helped me deal with the ups and downs of living.


Complete this sentence: Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No it’s…

Superman!  Yes I’m a Baby Boomer!  George Reeves the original Clark Kent and Superman for my generation!



What genre of music do you like?

Gospel, R&B, Soul, African,  Funk, Jazz, Disco, Classical,  International/World Music.


What did you appreciate or what made you smile this past week?  Feel free to use a quote, a photo, a story, or even a combination. 


Three things that make me happy are taking photos, creating artworks and being outside on a warm sunny day!





My New Look ~~ Wakanda Warrior Woman



My New Look ~~ Wakanda Warrior Woman


Well Folks I’ve decided to embrace my gray/grey hair and the aging process. Yes I cut off all my hair very short something like the Warrior Women of Wakanda. My hair has undergone the changes of menopause, aging, stress, illness and disability resulting in thinning and hair loss. Those women over 50 understand what I’m talking about. If you are not yet 50 don’t worry age will catch up to you.

BTW, No I am not going to discuss my chronic illness and disabilities. That includes my vision loss. It is what it is. One does not have to look sick to be sick.
I do not want people’s pity so I will not entertain questions about my health. I find those questions and comments annoying and upsetting therefore they will be deleted. 
Once you have a disability there are some days you might feel better but there is No get better.  Being that I’ve been dealing with health issues for over ten years I’ve accepted, adapted and for the most part moved on.  I will Not allow this blog to become a disease of the month club.
My Relationship with God is #1, Then My Brother Stephen, after that my creativity as expressed through my writing, photography (Please check out my blog, Roaming Urban Gypsy) and my artwork.

A Warrior Woman showcases her strengths not her weakness!

Instead I’m focusing on what I can still do. My abilities. Not my disabilities. Mostly my photography and Mixed Media Picture/Photo Collage skills.  I’m moving forward with my skills, talents, gifts and abilities.  Thinking Positive from now on Not negative!

Here are photos of my new look and my artwork! Happy Dance!

Wakanda Forever!!

Wakanda Warrior Woman Pose


African-American Warrior Queen

African Goddess




Tuesday Photo Challenge: Respira, Respira, Respira


Tuesday Photo Challenge – Breathe

Tuesday Photo Challenge – Breathe

Tuesday Photo Challenge – Breathe


Respira….    Respira….     Respira…. 


Yoga Time with a Cute Chihuahua