One Word Photo Challenge: Family


 

One Word Photo Challenge: Family

One Word Photo Challenge: Family

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Part III: People, Places & Things

If you want to share a literal image of the actual word, do that. But if you’d rather play with word association, post something that reminds you of the specific word, or something you use the word for, do so. It only has to make sense to you. Have fun and keep on photographing!

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This week’s word is Family!

My Family Past and Present from the 19th Century to the 21st Century!

 

 

 

 

Happy St. Patrick’s Day


Happy St. Patrick’s Day to all my Irish Friends and Buddies.  According to the DNA testing company 23andMe my brother Stephen and I have a small Irish Ancestry Claim.

Please keep in mind that ancestry is only traced from your mother’s side as only Women carry Mitochondrial DNA which is passed from Mother to child.  In order for me to get information on my Dad’s side one of my paternal cousins would have to take the DNA test.

When I was younger and especially when I was a kid I would get stopped on the street all the time by total strangers asking me if I was Native American. Got the same question from a Korean Sister who was giving me a facial. Obviously the African and Native American genes stand out more than anything else. Or at least to friends and neighbors.

Here is the 411 on our family genetics:

Deborah Palmer

100%

Sub-Saharan African 86.9%

European 11.3%
East Asian & Native American 1.4%
Unassigned 0.4%
European 11.3%
Northwestern European 8.8%

British & Irish 5.0%

Broadly Northwestern European 3.7%
Southern European 1.2%
Broadly Southern European 1.2%
Broadly European 1.3%
Above photos of my Mom Mable Elizabeth Palmer and my Grandmother Hattie Finney Banks. Below Me and Stephen.
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Me and My brother Stephen December 1961

International Women’s Day


 

Today I am Thankful for the Women taking care of my brother Stephen at his Group Home Residence and for all the Ladies and Gentlemen who are Direct Service Providers. These poor folks are seriously underpaid. Actually they would make more working at Walmart or McDonald’s!! Because of the low pay they are leaving the field in droves!  On the little money they make they cannot support themselves or their families.
 
Not everyone can take off for International Women’s Day. If you are on Facebook instead Please read my below posts regarding BFair2DirectCare. Support the Workers who care for developmentally and intellectually disabled children and adults. Because of the extremely low pay workers are leaving the field. What will I do on the day that there are no workers to care for Stephen? How will other family members cope?
If you live in New York please call, write or email Gov. Andrew Cuomo to add COLA increase to the Direct Care Providers paychecks. We who live in New York know how expensive it is to live here. I know I’m barely making ends meet and I make much more money than the staff who take care of my brother Stephen every day. Direct Care Workers/Direct Service Providers need a New York Living Wage!!

 

For those of my readers who live outside the USA now you see that America Does Not properly take care of it’s disabled population. Nor do they care for the Homeless especially the mentally ill homeless many of whom are Women. Because of my work schedule I walk the streets and ride the subways late at night and early in the morning. At 1:00 am there are women and men sleeping in cardboard boxes on the streets. Both Women and men are sleeping on the subway platforms and inside the subway cars. Because of the high rents homelessness in New York is on the rise. Same problem with Homeless Veterans but I’ll leave that for another post.

America ~~ A nation that ignores the needy and feeds the greedy.

 

Share Your World – February 27, 2017


 

 

Share Your World – February 27, 2017

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black-or-green-olivesEver ran out of gas in your vehicle?

No. Never. When I was able to drive I always made sure that I had a full tank of gas.

Which are better: black or green olives?

Neither one. Olives are too salty and I cannot eat them. High Blood Pressure. Pass the grapes or blueberries instead.

If you were a great explorer, what would you explore?

Africa. For me it would be like going home since that is where my ancestors are from. Not so much explore as it would be a Pilgrimage. Return to the Motherland. Fortunately I’ve made many friends from Africa via Blogging so I will go to Africa some day.

Quotes List: At least three of your favorite quotes?

 

Habakkuk 2:2

King James Version (KJV)

And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that reads it.

Proverbs 4:7

King James Version (KJV)

Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

And anything my parents used to say.  Here are three from my Dad Edward G. Palmer:

I complained because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.

It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.

Get something in your head not just on your head.

And from my Mom Mable Palmer:

If you mess up. You clean up.

God don’t like Ugly.

What goes around comes around.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

Grateful that today is my Birthday and God has allowed me to see another year of life. Happy to be 58!! Looking forward to my upcoming vacation starting Friday. Planning to spend time with my brother Stephen and relax.

 

 

 

Fair Pay Rally for Direct Care Workers


 

 

Here is information on the Rally that Stephen and I will be attending next Friday.  Please join us if you can. Thank you!

 

NYC FAIR info@nycfair.org via mail104.atl161.mcsv.net 

8:00 AM (13 hours ago)

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NYC FAIR

FAMILY ADVOCACY INFORMATION RESOURCE

MULTIPLE OPPORTUNITIES TO ADVOCATE:
NYS Senator Golden & other Legislators will be at St. Francis College On Friday, Feb. 3rd, 2017

RALLY TO SUPPORT THE WORKERS WHO SUPPORT PEOPLE WITH INTELLECTUAL & DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES

DATE:  Friday, February 3rd

11 a.m. – 12 p.m. Rally

Doors open 10:30

RALLY: Urge Governor Cuomo and State Legislators

to support #bFair2DirectCare and provide funding

for the direct care workers to receive a living wage.

LOCATION: St. Francis College

182 Remsen Street, Brooklyn, NY 11201
Brooklyn Elected Officials will be speaking, as well as

other concerned parents and advocates.

*RSVP REQUIRED

Contact: abittinger@ucpnyc.org

* Upon registration, indicate need for wheelchair access.

Facebook: www.facebook.com/BFair2DirectCare

Twitter: @Fair2DirectCare

Hashtag:  #bFair2Direct Care

Subways: 2, 3, 4, 5, R to Borough Hall/Court St & A, C F, R to Jay St/Metro Tech

 

 

 

 

 

Good Vacation News


 

Blogging Family,

Remember how I was moaning and groaning over the extremely high Con Edison bill and thought I was not going to be able to go away end of Feb/March 2017. Well I was wrong! I received this great email message a few days ago.

Hello, Deborah.
Thanks so much for your note and glad to hear of your interest and plans.
MetroNorth from Grand Central or 125th Street is the way to come — and it ends in New Haven at Union Station here. Beinecke Library is downtown in the heart of the Yale campus, an easy taxi/Uber from the station (and a nice enough walk if the weather is decent).
Our hours and other information are here: http://beinecke.library.yale.edu
The Yale University Art Gallery, among other venues on campus, are also worth checking out on a visit. Yale’s art museums, like Beinecke’s exhibitions, are free and open to the public. The Yale Calendar of Events — http://calendar.yale.edu/cal/opa — and Yale Arts Calendar — http://artscalendar.yale.edu/ — are great resources.

 

P.S. ~~ All that overtime I do helped me pay my half of the bill. My room-mate and I split the electric bill. Hard work does pay off and working on Holidays is a good thing! Mo’ Money! Mo’ Money! Mo’ Money!

So Yes I will be going to see the Yale Harlem Renaissance special exhibit for my birthday!! Hooray!!  Maybe not right on Feb. 27th which will be my BornDay Celebration but I plan to take that week off on vacation anyway. My only consideration will be the weather as Snowstorms put an end to train travel. But with God’s Blessings and Divine Favor it will NOT Snow and the temps will rise to the 40s at least for my vacation week!

On the subject of Vacation Big Ups to both my Supervisors who are excellent young Ladies! They are a Blessing to work with. We work well together. They have a sense of humor and are Flexible! I know I’ve said this before but I cannot repeat it enough, I’m so Glad and Happy I moved to the Evening/Night Shift!!  The rest of my co-workers on both the evening and night shifts are Super Nice. We have each others back and support each other. My work environment is the best its been in 8 years. This is my 9th year at the museum and I’m so Blessed to be with a community of people who are fun to be with.

As for Saratoga, well I did go there with my Dad many years ago and I thoroughly enjoyed our trip. My Dad Edward G. Palmer was a true Blessing for me and my brother Stephen as he took us many places and exposed us to locations outside New York City.

When I was in the military Daddy had more Father/Son bonding time. Daddy and Stephen went on an Alaskan cruise!  I’m sure they had fun. Stephen was very close to Daddy and even though he can’t really tell me what they did I’m sure Stephen has fond memories of the Cruise.

The moral of the Story is that and always is God answers prayer. Maybe not in the way we want or on our time line but the Lord always comes through. For that I am Grateful.

As the Mothers of the Church used to say, God will make a way out of no way! Say Amen Somebody!!

1 Chronicles 4:10
New King James Version (NKJV)

10 And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” So God granted him what he requested.

Jeremiah 29:11 New King James Version (NKJV)

11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

 

 

Fruitful Friday 


 

Today’s meeting with the Director of Stephen Residence went well. Better than expected. New Year 2017. Blank Slate. Fresh Start.

So glad I had the opportunity to speak directly one on one with the Director of QCP. I’ve known him a long time and I do trust him. I feel he values my opinion and will address my concerns regarding the clothing issues.

Gradually I’m starting to throw away my cynicism, doubts, becoming jaded and distrustful of other human beings. At one point I nearly lost faith in all humanity. We are all connected and in many ways that we don’t even realize or think about we are all connected. Not everyone is trying to throw you under the bus.

Of course like everyone I’ve had bad experiences and some horrible interactions with others and that includes my own family members but the actions of a few does not mean everyone you meet in your life will do the same thing to you. We are never really totally self-reliant. Most of us do not grow our own food or make our own clothes. So-called self-reliant Freedoms we take for granted during the peak of our youth and strength will be taken from you as old age, infirmities and disabilities settle in and become the new normal.

After my stroke at age 49 my life changed dramatically. I went through what I believe are the 7 stages of grief. For the longest I was alternately depressed and angry because I could not longer do the things I used to do like drive. My eyesight was affected by the stroke and I lost a good deal of vision in my left eye. So I cannot drive. I have difficulty reading books, signs, documents, etc…

Eventually over the last 8 years I’ve had to throw away my pride and accept help. Due to arthritis my back, legs, ankles, knees and joints no longer work the way they once did. God in his mercy has sent many rescuers to my aid but I had to drop my bad attitude, have faith and accept help.  As the banks and financial institutions say, Past performance is not indicative of future results. I cannot allow my past including the abuse I suffered from men, racism, discrimination, bigotry and even some of my paternal cousins shunning me and Stephen affect my current or future interactions with people.

Back in 2012 I had several traumatic experiences. I split up with a guy whom I really cared for and had fallen in Love with but because his parents had died he had to return to the Eastern European country of his birth. It hurt. During this time period I also had a falling out with certain paternal cousins who I had cared for and supported when they fell on hard times. Yes they turned their backs on me. That really hurt because we were all raised up together. I cried. I felt abandoned. After all your family is supposed to Love you but we all know in reality that is not always the truth.

Finally I had a very strange experience while posted in a special Civil War photo exhibit. As many of you may have read in my previous blogs I had an ancestor William Henry Halstead who served as a Union Soldier. Well don’t ask me how but my Great, Great Grandfather made contact with me and I found myself in the midst of one of the battles he was in. I heard cannon fire, felt bullets whizzing by me. I heard the cries of the wounded. Their screams. I felt my Great, Great Grandfather William Henry Halstead fear and anxiety. The whole vision was unsettling.

I needed answers so I prayed to Jesus to send someone who would help me. Jesus sent me a Japanese Buddhist Lady who today has become one of my strongest friends. Guess Jesus has both a sense of humor and the knowledge/wisdom to send the right person despite that person being a different race/religion.

I can be a very difficult person yet she put up with me. Listen to my troubles. We went together to her Temple Shinnyo-en New York which I later joined. Now I’ve had my ups and downs but on Jan. 15th my Japanese girlfriend and I are going to the Main Temple located in White Plains. We will be together as Sisters. American and Japan. Buddhist and Christian.

http://www.shinnyocenternyc.org/about-us/

http://www.shinnyocenternyc.org/about-us/holiness-shinso-ito/

As my mother Mable Palmer used to tell me, “Deborah you never know who you may have to call on.”

Just want to point out that when Stephen cannot do something and I ask him if he needs help he says Yes right away. I need to be more like my brother in some ways.

Thanking everyone for their prayers.

Stephen, QCP Director as Santa Claus and a friend