You Don’t Look Sick, Can’t You Just Get Over It?


This blog post resonates with me. I suffer with chronic pain and PTSD from domestic violence and sexual assault. People are always telling you to get over it but they don’t realize that it lies under the surface waiting to strike whenever a trigger appears. You do not have control over your subconscious mind. Just when I think I’m doing okay like the Hydra a trigger attacks and I’m beaten down once again. Here is another article from Medium that discusses the issue.
“When people tell you to ‘get over it’” @Jonwestenberg https://medium.com/hi-my-name-is-jon/maybe-we-never-really-get-over-things-but-thats-okay-too-c4341f9aa31c

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Many of us deal with an invisible illness (physical, emotional, mental), we don’t look sick!

Typically, if we are out and about and even within our own family,  if we see or know someone that looks outwardly ill or has a visible disability, we hopefully (but I know not everyone) feel compassion, give them space, and help them, usually without thought or frustration. I’m not addressing caregiver fatigue in this post, I’m talking about our very human nature that if we can’t see it, it doesn’t exist.

Sometimes, out of pure surprise, when people find out I have PTSD, they say, “You don’t look sick.” I don’t take offence to it because it is a natural thought. It’s not coming from a place of dismissal, or maliciousness. But, I do take offence when the next words of “Can’t you just get over it?” are said aloud. I don’t know, there is something…

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